The Harsh Reality Of Being An Adult NEET

Adulthood is hard. I’ve only been at this adulting thing for a few weeks, and I already feel kind of drained. There’s a lot of monotony and a whole lot less meeting up with friends. The work isn’t hard or stressful really. I just don’t look forward to it. I know that with time, I’ll get over it.

All in all though, I am still glad I have a job. Mainly, because the alternative scares me.

Note: I’l be getting into some very heavy stuff here. Be warned. Also, some spoilers for Neeko Wa Tsurai Yo. I highly recommend reading it but it can get very heavy at times.

You may have seen this image floating around recently.

This image is from the manga Neeko wa Tsurai yo.

A manga that asks following questions

  • What if my fears of adulthood overcame my need for a job?
  • What if I had romanticized my teenage years to the point of not being able to function when I try to get myself out of the mindset?
  • What if I get left behind by my friends?
  • What if I ended up being glad I don’t have to work and just end up being a burden on my parents?
  • What if I end up disappointing the dreams my younger self had set for me?

All these questions are answered in today’s manga discussion of Neeko Wa Tsurai Yo.

What’s a NEET?

A quick summary of what a NEET is according to Urban Dictionary.

NEET is a term used in the field of education, the acronym stands for; Not in Education, Employment or Training but young people have started to use it as a term for bums/layabouts with no future.

It is primarily used in Japan.

If you’ve seen any Isekai anime, there’s a good chance you’ve heard the term used before. There’s also a 99.9% chance the MC is a NEET.

Often has intercross with Hikkikomori, which means recluse. NEETS are not necessarily recluses, but usually are because of their circumstances.

What’s The Hook?

Neeko wa Tsurai Yo is simply summarized as the day-to-day experiences of 23 year old Niito Nemuko and her NEET life.

It starts out to be a simple gag manga about the flaws of a NEET lifestyle. From time to time, however, it morphs into a depressing view of the realities that push a person to become a NEET in the first place.

Very few manga or anime have captured the more anxiety inducing side of being an adult in the workforce. Stories like Oyasumi Punpun and Welcome To The NHK has done a fantastic job of portraying this kind of existential dread before.

This manga is unique in that it focuses on the degeneration of a formerly boisterous and confident geek girl into a social recluse.

Unlike Punpun and Satou, Neeko started as somebody you would not expect to end up being a NEET. She wasn’t socially awkward, nor was she particularly bullied or felt ostracized in high school.

She simply couldn’t handle the pressures of adulthood.

A Loving But Misguided Family

Her family is clearly loving and yet they also seem to not fully understand her. All three deal with her unemployment differently.

The mom is very naggy and constantly pushes her to look for a job and stop being a bum around the house. She means well, but can sometimes push too hard.

When Neeko is pushed too far, something breaks in her everytime and she gets anxiety attacks. The mom treats her mental illness as an attitude problem than be fixed with “tough love”.

The dad can’t bring himself to berate or push her out of the house and instead spoils her every want and need.

He still sees her as the little girl she was and not the fully grown woman she is. The dad is an enabler for her lazy lifestyle of dependency.

Her sister, who is shown to be a lot more confident and competent, loves her sister very much but doesn’t understand the guilt her sister feels for being envious of her.

She views Neeko’s unemployment not as the serious problem that it is, but as a small hurdle like it was for her. The sister does not understand the scope of Neeko’s anxiety. She thinks that because she can do it, Neeko can too, right?

Drowning In Memories

Some of us have cleaned our rooms at some point and had a nice, nostalgic trip. We would find old drawings, pictures, notes and toys. Every little trinket triggered a deeply rooted memory from our younger days.

At some point, you start feeling sad. It’s hard to say why. No matter where you are in life, be it in a good place or bad, everybody longs for the days gone by.

Neeko experiences this in the worst way possible.

There’s really few feelings worse than being left behind. Moreso if they’re people you thought would be around forever.

That sharp realization that those youthful days you took for granted are gone is one that everybody goes through. That very realization can be incredibly depressing if you have it in a bad phase of your life.

General Anxiety

One thing being a NEET that a lot of anime like to paint as comedic is the fear of social interaction. It’s very easy to have triggers from mundane tasks. It’s a vicious domino effect that can go something like this.

  • Get frustrated at simple mistake
  • Start reflecting on how incompetent you are
  • Realize that your incompetence will prevent you from getting a job
  • Being jobless means you are a burden
  • You believe your family starts to hate you for being a burden
  • I’ll be kicked out or ignored forever
  • I’m just a mistake
  • I want to die

What I like about Neeko’ thoughts are, unlike the nihlistic Punpun, she has several people she cares about. She has a past wherein she had a normal group of friends and a family life, much like a lot of us.

It shows us that you don’t have to be from a dark background in life to develop anxiety and depression. The best of us can feel like the worst of us at any time.


In the end, this manga captures the social anxiety of a being young adult very well. I know from personal experience how hard it can be to break out of a habit. Even harder trying to not break from the pressyre your family puts on you.

Neeko wa Tsurai yo is still ongoing. I’m interested to see what direction the author will take such a human concept while maintaining some level of fanservice for those looking for it.

21 thoughts on “The Harsh Reality Of Being An Adult NEET

  1. Wonderful review. In fact, I had to interrupt my reading of it to go read the first chapter of this manga. You captured the unusual bits about this seemingly typical set-up very thoughtfully.

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  2. Damn, this sounds good. I’ll definitely give this one a try. Thank you Lumi for the review. You did a great job with this, especially on showcasing the more realistic sides of being a NEET.

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  3. Oh wow. I never heard of this manga. I’ve seen Welcome to the NHK a long time ago, so I have familiarity with this concept in the context of anime/manga. It’s kind of strange for me because most of my adult life, I’ve worked multiple jobs, yet I still felt existential dread like not being good enough, not having a good career, and/or feeling like I should give up anime and video games (granted, I haven’t played video games in a long time). There was also a need to feel like I’m more adult by reading more serious media. Interestingly enough, I’ve been reading a ton of non-fiction and language books, but that’s whatever. It’s this need to not be a NEET or Hikikomori to prove people wrong and shame them for thinking that way.

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    1. I have like 7 action figures on my work desk. All very nerdy crap. Although, I’m probably just lucky to be in a country and workplace that doesn’t judge. Especially since one of my bosses is a bigger weeb than I am, once you look at her office.

      As for feeling more adult, I had that for a short bit during college. Now, at 20, I’m just very open to lots of things I like. I like being a generalist because it helps with starting conversations.

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      1. Dang you are nerdier than I am. Haha! That’s good how you’re in a place where no one will judge you. I’m not in a position to have a desk where I can bring stuff to decorate it at my jobs. However, I sufficed by having a Megaman Funko Pop figure and my custom-made Kimba amigurumi I got from a friend for my birthday.

        For me, it wasn’t just anime, but music. I was shamed for my interests by most people, and I need to be proud of what I like. Maybe I should shame others for what they like as revenge (it’s SO tempting) as payback for everything that happened to me. Granted, I have several different interests like indie movies, geography, history, learning new languages (especially recently), writing fiction, and many others.

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